"Dont go changin'...I want you just the way you are." (but I am a Man)
Back to my point, If I were to take a long trip to an unknown place with no knowledge of my return, what would I take? A compass, a map; maybe my cell phone? No, I'm taking my (not that I own her,but she's not his she's mine) Woman. She comes with food (you know she used to feed me when I couldn't feed myself), the ability to please me (not in a selfish way; but I am a Man), she is patient, she has a love that I will never comprehend only yearn for and her mind processes in ways that gives us an advantage, two minds are better than mine alone (although two women [working together] can out think a nation of men). So I find myself preparing for this trip (life's journey), and as I gather the things I need for my voyage (money, clothes, car and things), I would leave them all if I could only carry just one...Woman.
a humbled man,
Bycha Buxton
buxtonbycha@aol.com
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Wow! A humble man you are. I'm sure you are a very secure man as well. No matter what attributes women have, there is no way to make it w/o a real man.
I look back on my life and thank God for all of the mishaps because I truly believe that I would not be the woman that I am today without them.
So, I thank the bad men of my past because they only prepared me for the wonderful husband that I have today.
I can now appreciate him without taking him for granted. I can now love him with all of my heart without a motive being attached. I can now be honest because he loves me for who I am.......I can now simply love him without restraint.
May God bless you real good for this post.
Thanks!
Living in NYC, I have met many single people both young and old who find companionship by being a part of their community in a variety of ways without a significant other. However, ultimately, every last person has the hope finding that special someone.
Even my crazy 50 something year old neighbor who reminds me of Pat from SNL is trying to find a man. I cannot believe she was even married! [I am so wrong!]
I wish you the best of luck in your pursuits of that lady!
Bycha, do you know what I got from this post? I felt an incredible amount of pain from you. I felt as though you would give up everything if only you could find that woman who will always stand by your side, who will be your back, who will support you in all ways, and love the inner Bycha so much that the outer Bycha could look like the monster from the black lagoon ....and all she would notice would be the crinkles around your eyes when you smile and the genuine soul that is within that needs to be nourished. And you want it nourished so badly, as well as nourishing this woman who means everything to you....the woman who shares secret jokes with you, the woman who lays her head back on your shoulder when you come up behind her and wrap your arms around her waist, the woman who trusts you and BELIEVES in you and who will be your best friend for life.She will never abandon you, nor will you abandon her. No longer are you two, but ONE....and you stand together in love, and all you want to do is to please each other and share. To be loved selflessly, honestly, and endearingly.
I felt sad for you when I read your post....because you are me. No, I'm not crying out for the affection of a woman (thank you very much, but I don't swing that way! Lol). But I have so much passion to share with a man I could truly love and respect, and I think I understand your sadness (even with the facade you put up for us that you are doing fine in this life of yours). I think you're lonely, I think you're sad, I think you feel like it's possible that you won't find a single woman at your age who has the characteristics that you cherish.....or if you happen to find her, she'll be more a fantasy than the real deal. I could be so far out there on this anf completely misinterpreted your post....all I know is that it made me feel sad for you and it made me feel sad for me.
I wish you so much happiness, Bycha....and I hope you find your soul mate. And for someone to want you "just the way you are"....for someone to actually love you, regardless of all your flaws and imperfections....that's an incredible treasure to find in today's increasingly selfish world. I wish you all the best. I hope your smiles are not just an act. I hope you are still able to find some happiness within youself. Love hurts, doesn't it?
Take good care of yourself.
Your response is always welcome,
Bycha Buxton
It's refreshing to hear a man appreciate a woman for what she is. So many have to show themselves "dominant".
I'd been taught (and believe) that as God created woman from the side of man, that she is meant to literally come along side him and be his helper.
I don't think "woman" was an afterthought.
Man is who God created him to be: logical, strong, protector, leader...he is more physically oriented...all these things are important to lead a family.
Woman is who God created her to be: emotional, compassionate, nurturing, and more...these things are also important to family.
It's not that man/woman things don't overlap....they do. Many woman make good leaders and many men have compassion (for example).
The point is, men and women are different. God created them that way. They were designed by God to complement one another...not compete.
And together, they make "one".
Be blessed always,
Judy
Genesis 2:23
The man said,
"This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called 'woman,'
for she was taken out of man."
So, Lightning in a bottle, not just a jar of clay.
You will meet the Bone of your bones and the flesh of your flesh and start to sing...YOU will know who she is, because meeting her will spontaneously cause you to break into Song like Adam - so very like Adam.